Sometimes in life, you find yourself driving into a brick wall.
Last night, I found myself in one of those situations.
No, like literally- I drove into a brick wall... and then a parked car...
Not my best moment, to be fair.
It's a cruel irony really, because I was actually on my way back from picking up a friend after they had had car trouble. Also ironic because I was planning to write a blog about how great the freedom of having a car and being able to come home whenever was; but as I am back to lifts and buses and walking for the next indeterminable number of days, that will not be written for a while.
Anyway, when this whole incident happened, and I was freaking out to the extent where the lady whose car I scratched invited me into her home to sit down and calm down- all I kept thinking was that my mother was going to kill me. She didn't. In fact, she came into my room very calmly this morning, and when I apologised, all she had to say was "these things happen."
Actually, that's what everyone who knows seems to keep telling me. (Side note: If you're reading this, and you know me in real life and i haven't said anything to you... it's because i don't necessarily want everyone to know because i'm dreadfully embarassed). Now I've realised something really important. Accidents happen; and you're allowed to make mistakes. Especially when you're delving into something completely new. You're bound to slip up now and then and not get everything right, as it has been said: these things happen! Maybe you should avoid your mistakes being on the road as mine was, but allow them to happen, and learn from them. Without the hiccups, we wouldn't be able to fully appreciate when things are going well in life.
Take each step as a learning curve! I've had many learning curves recently as I've stepped into new things and it's interesting to see how we dealt with them the first time to work out how to deal with things better in the future. As I look back on my first semester of uni as it has come to a close, I realise that I have made a few mistakes (such as leaving all my essays to the last minute, and prioritising certain people over others making friends of mine feel neglected). The great thing is, now that I've been through this, I can say that these things happen, and work hard not to let them happen again.
Accidents and mistakes suck, especially when you know that you're the only one to blame. But as with everything, it is your perspective that determines the outcome of the situation, and how you can learn and grow from it.
When you hit a brick wall, put the handbrake on, take a deep breath, calm down, and approach the situation looking ahead- not focusing on the mess in that moment.
All the best