However, on the other hand, constantly being miserly and looking for the worst in every situation isn't much better. How are we meant to find any happiness in life when we're constantly waiting for life to prove us that it sucks? We'd be constantly on our guard, never stopping to enjoy the little moments that life gives us that I discussed in my previous blog.
I think that being a realist, as dull as it sounds, is important. However, I also don't think it's everything, and actually haven't quite given up my capacity to dream just yet. Yes, getting my hopes up only to have them torn down hurts every single time, and I don't think there will ever be a time where it doesn't hurt. Surely it's better to be expectant and at least have some dreams instead of constantly waiting for things to go wrong though?
I would say that actually, optimism is strength. To see people who are always looking for the best in situations and remind themselves that things could be much worse are people to be admired, maybe even feared. Part of me would say that it's human nature to be optimistic, but honestly, I don't think it is. We're anxious, distrusting, closed people, and to allow optimism in to that can actually be a real challenge, especially when it's let us down before.
It's not a flaw and though I agree that getting your hopes up about unlikely things is unwise, don't be scared to let yourself feel occasionally and let yourself hope for better tomorrows.
I'm sorry if this seems like a bit of a ramble, I'm kinda exhausted and emotionally drained. Trying to be optimistic though. Maybe you should try too.