Every so often, there will come an occasion when someone you care deeply about has something great going on in their life, or they'll do something cool, or they'll receive some fab news. These instances prompt one thing for me:
I turn into a raging ball of excitement/ a ridiculously proud mother hen.
I love getting happy about other people's happiness, and actually I find that it can be somewhat therapeutic. When things seem to be going wrong for you but right for your friends, you can still find happiness in that, rather than jealousy.
I like to refer to this little phenomena as 'second- hand happiness'
Another example of things that give me second- hand happiness is when I see my friends perform in shows and the like. For example, earlier this year when I saw my friend Josh completely rock the role of Claudio in 'Much Ado About Nothing', or when Alex blew every single solo she had in the school choir out of the water.
When George got his job at the docks that he'd wanted for ages, I was so overwhelmed with pride and happiness that I thought I might cry. When our friend Jack was at mine and found out that he had got into the University that he wanted, I hugged him so tight that I probably could've broken something.
I absolutely love being excited for other people, and I just think it's so much more beneficial than being envious. It makes them feel great because they are able to share something that matters to them with the people they love and feel supported in that. It makes you feel great, because through your pride you are able to experience and appreciate their own experiences and excitement. I think second-hand happiness is wonderful, because it connects us with our loved ones. In fact, there are times when second-hand happiness is more influential on my life than my own personal happiness; and it can be the pick me up I need when I feel low. We were not made to live life alone, and in sharing in the successes and failures of the communities around us, we are able to connect with our humanity in a deeper way. We connect with people around us in a deeper way.
Keep smiling and appreciating the joy of your loved ones, because it may just brighten your day.
Smiles and love,