Singling, mingling, and everything in between. Otherwise known as a gander into the pros of being single.
At 18 years old, I've never had a boyfriend. *gasp* Sure, it's probably a little strange for me to advertise this on the internet, and admittedly, there would have been a time where just the thought of that would make me cringe, but as I have got older, and experienced more of life- I actually feel pretty content.
I am one of those people who has always been in a friendship group filled with couples (either both within the group, or one in and one out). At times, it does suck. Like when a friend ditches you for a date, or you have nobody to buy a present for on Valentines Day, or when you've really really liked that guy but you couldn't tell whether he liked you back or not and if you're trying too hard and... SHUT UP, REHANA.
ANYWAY, on the whole, I don't think that singleness is inherently an awful thing. Maybe I am influenced by those views which suggest that you shouldn't need a man/woman to complete your life, but I also just think that sometimes being single can be a real blessing.
- When you're single, you're free to explore the things that make you happy: find a new hobby, do the things that you love to do, watch that extra Netflix series because why the hell not!
- You have more time for your friends: I am so lucky to be able to get to spend such great times with my friends. I'm not saying I wouldn't be able to have that if I was in a relationship, but you don't have your loyalty split between friends and your partner when only one is in the picture.
- Take some time out for yourself: I don't know about you, but sometimes, I find it really refreshing to be on my own. Just peace, quiet and time to reflect on who you are and what it is you can bring to the world to affect it positively. You have so much more free time when you're single- catch up on sleep, just because you can!
- The money you save: from what I have witnessed, relationships don't just cost time, but also money. You have to pay for dates, and gifts, and travel expenses if they don't live in walking distance to you... Make the most of that money while you have it!
- Less expectation to be presentable: this one applies more to the females reading, but think of the joys of not having to shave in the winter season???
So yeah, those are just a few ways in which I think you can spin a positive outlook of single life.
Don't get me wrong, I don't think there is anything wrong with being in a relationship, and I am so so happy for the friends of mine that are. My only problem is people having such deep- rooted issues if they aren't with someone just yet. I see girls my age on twitter saying things like "why don't I have a boyfriend yet?" "I'm 18, I deserve a boyfriend to show up now" and other things like that, and it's absolute crap! You don't deserve a relationship to be handed to you! And if you do just want to be in a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship- you're missing the whole damn point, son!!!
If you find someone that you love spending time with, someone who makes you smile when you see them, and someone who truly enhances your life; go for it! Treasure that person and love them with all you've got for as long or as little as it lasts. I just think that we need to re-evaluate our perception on the point of dating. It's about a partnership- not just saving your lonely soul from societal judgement.
I don't know how long my single streak will last. Maybe I'll start dating someone a few weeks from now, a few months from now, or maybe I'll have to wait a few more years! However, the point I'm trying to make is this: make the most of it! Don't waste your life waiting for opportunities that only come with a partner, when you can live life and embrace it fully, all on your own.
That's enough rambling from me today, so stay chill <3